Love Advice From Friends

When my girl friends decided to throw a bridal shower for me for my wedding two years ago, each had to write on a piece of paper whatever advice she wanted to share with me. They color-coded the pieces of advice based on my “shades-of-pink” wedding color motif --- general household advice written on white paper, “intimacy” advice on red paper, and pink colored pieces were reserved for love and relationship advice. They put everything in a round transparent container and we randomly picked and read a piece of advice as we passed the container around the group. The advices varied from the useful and serious to the crazy and kinky!

As I could not share with others the “intimacy” advices I got (trust me what my friends wrote are not for General Patronage, so I’m just going to keep them to myself), let me share the cool ones I received on love and relationship. To friends and other people who are going through tough times, I hope you get inspiration from these :

- Never quarrel about money.

- Love is not the right reason to get married. To grow together is.

- Stay friends. Love and respect follows.

- Don’t expect him to change. Don’t expect him to remain the same either. Love and accept him for who he is and who he will become.

And my most favorite love advice of all (and therefore I try my best to live by)

- Be his number one fan.

These five words may sound simple but for me it means so much more. For me, it means believing in your partner’s capabilities and talents, supporting his dreams, endeavors, and goals, cheering him on his successes and achievements, being there if he fails, and loving unconditionally. It means accepting his not-so-good side because his good side is enough reason to make your heart skip a beat.

As your idol, he is the source of your inspiration. And as a fan, you are behind him all the way. After all, a number one fan defends her idol to her friends, her family, and to his detractors.

Sweet and sensible di ba?